The 24 Hour Rule

I am constantly trying to grow, adapt and live out of my comfort zone. I made up this saying when I was a teenager and I still use it today. “Will it matter in 24 hours?” I used to use this line when trying to convince friends to do something stupid, inappropriate or something that could potentially get us in trouble. For instance I would stand up on the cafeteria table and do my impression of Pat from Saturday night live. Did it matter that I made a huge scene while simultaneously making my friends to laugh till they cried? No.

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To be honest, I really didn’t give a shit about rules or consequences when I was younger and I would never say I was a bad kid but I tested the limits for sure. Having this lack of fear gave me a free ride to some amazing life experiences. This behavior has been instilled in me but the older I get the more consequences matter. Little by little they creep up on me. Things like bills, my health and well-being and overall anxiety sometimes gets the best of me.

Rewind to my early twenties, still using this motto, my stepmom gave me her question: “How do you want this to end?” Brilliant, right? Think about the outcome you really want and then find the shortest route to it. Boom! Life changing stuff right here.

To be able to run a small business you have to be a risk taker. By the way, I’ll be writing a separate blog on how I built the business from the ground up, so no worries! Sticking to the rules is for the birds and corporate America. Some of you may not know that I worked for corporate America for 6 years before I made the big move to do Capture full-time. I was a marketing manager for a magazine. When I first got the job I loved it. When I left the job I absolutely hated it. That was a good thing though, because it gave me the push I needed to make the leap to work for myself.

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I look back and realize I could have made that jump probably 1-2 years before I did but it never felt right. Even the day I gave my 2 weeks notice (as amazing as it was) I wouldn’t say it felt 100% right but being at that job felt 100% wrong. The last twelve months of my job I spent my time contemplating how much I could be doing for Capture if it was my only job, where I would travel with my down time, how I could look busy while simultaneously doing nothing and positioning my computer so it looked like I was reading the screen but actually taking teeny tiny naps throughout the day.  By the way remind me to delete this blog if someday I find myself needing a job outside of photography.

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Sometimes the answer to the 24 hour question isn’t always a clear yes or no but if it’s close to a no, I do whatever it is. Here are a few examples of when I said no lately:

  • Will it matter if I have the guts to tell a stranger they are beautiful? No? Good. Done.
  • Will it matter if purposely get lost in Greece to see the sights off the beaten path in hopes of amazing photos? No? Good. Done.
  • Will it matter if I ask for a photography job I want knowing there is a big possibility of rejection? No? Good. Done.
  • Will it matter if play hooky from work one day and take a boat ride because life is short and June in New England is beautiful? No? Good. Done.
  • Will it matter if I ask help from a friend when I really needed it? No? Good. Done.
  • Will it matter if I don’t make money on one job because the photos of a families adoption day are more important than income for an hour? No? Good. Done.
  • Will it matter if tell a white lie to make someone feel better about themselves? No? Good. Done.
  • Will it matter if I attempt to cook a new meal and fail miserably? No? Good. Done.
  • Will it matter if I ask a stranger on a train to switch headphones with me for a minute to hear what they are listening to? No? Good. Done.
  • Will it matter if I tell someone I love them after years of not saying it to them? Yes? Good. Done.

So your mission from me is to ask the 24 hour question this upcoming weekend. See what you find out and think about why you are saying yes or no. And for the love of God and Pixel say no at least once and do something out of your own comfort zone because as we already established- comfort zones are for the birds and corporate America.

An MBproblem for all MBproblems

So as I ventured into the blog world, a place that I have very little experience or authority being a part of, I did some research on how to create blogs that have some substance. One of the topics I came across as an idea to write about was simply, “your week in review.” So I must say, after the week I had I thought it was a perfect fit.

One night I shot an engagement session for two friends of mine that are getting married in September. I mean how cool is it have a job you love with people you love?! I knew Tijae and Joe when they started dating and it was clear to everyone that not only were they a perfect fit but their happiness is literally contagious. The best part of shooing two people who are about to get married is that the session has no lists of groups, no worries about the weather (since they can easily be rescheduled) no pressure and no time constraints. It’s simply photographing the energy between two people who are madly in love and that’s fanfuckingtastic.

We walked, we laughed, we shared stories and reminisced on moments seem like a life time ago. There is so much I can see when it comes to people and how they photograph. For me it’s not just about simply clicking the shutter, it’s literally watching how love behaves. I watch it in a laugh, a smile or how hands tighten when they hold on to the others. When I’m able to recognize this behavior and click the shutter at the right moment, I’m done my job and done it right.

I also shot a wedding and can I just say that these two people who were originally strangers quickly became clients and now have become my new bffs 🙂 They had a smaller wedding that focused on good beer, killer food, hilarious friends, great family and what I can only describe as a simple, true love. Did I happen to mention that the super awesome food and drink was not only open to the guests but to me as well? I always make sure to stop and eat at weddings but I don’t ever drink, it just doesn’t seem appropriate but when the bride and groom insist you have a lager or two, well I’m not going to say no- the client’s always right, correct?

The last part of my week can only be described as the exact opposite of all the awesomeness I just shared with you. This is one of those stories that I can’t imagine happening to anyone else, but I’m not shocked it happened to me. One evening around 10:00 at was at my local watering hole and a friend yelled, “MB your car is getting towed.” I ran outside and sprinted down main street yelling for the truck to stop. The truck stopped and he said, “Is there something you want out of the car Kate?” I replied, “Kate?” and told him he was talking to the wrong person. In a matter of 60 very confused seconds I found out this man was repossessing my car but he was looking for the previous owner who apparently owed money but he thought I was her. Of course these guys probably hear that they have the wrong person about one hundred times a day, but in this case he really did. The problem was that even though he had the wrong person he had the right the vin number which was on his order and that was all that mattered. There was nothing I could say or do to convince this guy that it wasn’t me who owed anyone money. And in a matter of seconds I watched my car get towed away, just like that.

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Did I happen to mention that this was a Friday night and that the repossession company and the bank were both closed Saturday and Sunday? I had to hitch a ride from a very generous friend to the wedding. Monday morning I found out a close relative was in the hospital but I had no car to get to there! I got myself to Branford as fast as I could but I had to wait almost two hours for them to open, clear the car off their repo list, get the car out of the lot and sign off papers explaining that I didn’t owe any money and that the original lien holder was the person responsible. Can you believe this is real life?! I can’t believe that a piece of my property that I pay good money for every month (and early I might add!) was taken out of my possession for reasons beyond my control.

*when I finally got Ruby Rose back I took full advantage and got the hard top off!

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So there it is, my week in review. I will say that all the photos turned out amazing, the person that was in the hospital is home now and I won a nice settlement from Chrysler Financial as a result of their wrongdoings. And now I simply have another “only me,” story I can tell for years to come.